Q: If a husband struggles with same-sex attractions, why should he stay with his wife? Wouldn’t they both be better off going their separate ways?
A: Diane and I were committed to our marriage. We loved each other. The gay community was about youth and good looks. Diane loves me unconditionally!
There was always a voice inside me that said what I was doing—sexually acting out with other men—was wrong. I also had other people in my life who would be affected, especially my sons, and also my siblings, my in-laws, my mother, my dear friends. Their relationships were more important to me than my selfish, carnal desires.
Divorce was never an option for me. We knew it would be a battle, but we persevered, thanks to our Lord Jesus.
As Robert Frost once wrote, Diane and I “took the [road] less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”